Because sometimes if it walks like a duck…

Stones,

Life in the United States at this time is distressing. Every time you turn on the News on log on to the internet there is something sickening going on. The issue we face now is that the line has clearly been drawn in the sand. There is no straddling the fence, you have to pick aside. Whichever side you choose, there is something that needs to be discussed.

Breonna Taylor

I honestly still don’t understand how this is controversial. I know there are typically grey areas in all things but this everything is perfectly clear. She was murdered. She was murdered in cold blood and due to incompetence. It’s sad, infuriating, exasperating, sickening, and almost confusing as to why her murders have not been jailed yet. Had Brett Hankison, Jon Mattingly, and Myles Cosgrove “accidentally” killed a white woman, the police coverage would have been extensive. Let’s be honest, had Breonna Taylor or her boyfriend Kenneth Walker been white, this situation would not have happened in the first place. Did I happen to mention that the people they were supposedly looking for in the first place were in custody? Yeah, nothing about this case makes sense.

I’m not a prosecutor though so it’s not my job to render a decision on who is guilty or not. I am but a lowly spectator watching the madness unfold. However, I do believe that we can no longer depend on the police to protect us. They have shown us time and time again that blue only protects the blue. And before anyone tries to defend #NotAllCops think for a second. If there are “good cops” then they would stop at nothing to discard the bad cops. But we all know from the George Floyd situation that that is not the case. People don’t like to make waves, the bystander effect exist, and mob mentality is a huge problem.

We need to keep the focus on getting her justice. We shouldn’t let the fire die down because as we can see once news coverage dies down everything is swept under the rug. Derek Chauvin wasn’t indicted with the murder of George Floyd. Kenneth Walker was freed but now that coverage has died down, nothing became of it. He got indicted for tax evasion before the murder of a human being. This cannot continue. We have to let our government know that we will not be silent. That we will let our voices be heard.

My Call to Action…

Keep the conversation going. Do not stop until real progress is made outside of the media. Make people care. Make people listen. Dismantle the system. Starting with Breonna Taylor.

Call 502.595.2300 and ask (demand) that they arrest the cops, Brett Hankison, Jonathan Mattingly, and Miles Cosgrove, who killed Breonna Taylor.

Until Next We Meet,

S.Hollisway

Scarred and Faceless

Because sometimes “No” is necessary…

Stones,

“No” is a full sentence. Use it.”

-Amy Landino

I have a confession to make: I am a people pleaser.

It has been lessened as I grew older but the tendency is still there. This wonderful tendency results in me putting myself into some very interesting situations.

This makes saying “No” very difficult for me. I always feel like my “No’s” warrant an explanation. But in reality, they don’t. None do.

“No” does not require validation and your reasons are your own. In fact, “No” is essential to mental health.

Think about it. How many times have we spread ourselves paper-thin for fear of using “No” that we couldn’t take on any more? How many times have we been taken advantage of or sacrificed our sanity for the sake of doing more for others that we don’t have the time for ourselves?

You can not pour from an empty cup!

You can not give what you don’t have.

I like to remind myself of this before I put myself in these situations. I like to think that it will make saying “No” easier. Sometimes it does, sometimes I lose the battle. I tend to think in extremes, like black and white thinking. I think that “No” is for extreme cases but the little things matter too.

My recent encounter when I should have used the word “No” early on was on a date that I had. Nothing illegal happened but I definitely should have said no earlier. It was awkward and uncomfortable and I shouldn’t have sacrificed my comfort for his feelings.

You don’t have to spent emotionally or physically to use your “No”. The little “No’s” help build up the confidence for situations that require the big “No”. Then there are no people taking advantage of you and no way to be hurt.

Well, that’s the theory. In a perfect world that’s how pain would end. People wouldn’t be afraid to be vulnerable because when someone would step on a boundary a quick “No” would either end a relationship or the relationship would blossom into a healthy tree of respect. What an easy life that would be.

Until next we meet,

S. Hollisway

Scarred and Faceless

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